What to Do When Christmas Feels More Like a Mess Than Miraculous

So the Word became human and made his home among us. He was full of unfailing love and faithfulness. And we have seen his glory, the glory of the Father’s one and only Son.
— John 1:14 (NLT)

What do we do when Christmas seems to be overruled by stuff to buy, people to see, and all the activities?

Maybe this season feels more like a mess than miraculous.

There may be grief to navigate, unmet expectations, health problems, or family drama…. save it for your mama.

There’s presents to wrap, gifts to exchange, memories to make, and things to bake.

Sometimes navigating through the holidays feel like they’re navigating you.

Newsflash, they aren’t - take a deep breath and ditch that mess.


You don’t have to run around town looking for that perfect stocking stuffer for your pet bunny. She’ll forget it in 4 minutes anyways…. you know, short attention spans and all.

You don’t have to bake cookies for all your neighbors and deliver them dressed up like Olaf as you fumble through Jingle Bells, Batman Smells at the top of your lungs. Note: this does not apply to my neighbors… you should actually do that.

You don’t have to move Elf on The Shelf EVERYDAY. Just tell the kids he went outside to play.


In the busyness or perhaps ache of the season, I don’t want you to miss it.

We’re about to celebrate the miracle of prophetic words being birthed in the form of the Holy One, a Son.

For to us a child is born,
to us a son is given,
and the government will be on his shoulders.
And he will be called
Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God,
Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.
— Isaiah 9:6 (NIV)

Christmas is sacred and holy, and there should be moments to reflect and connect to honor the miraculous.

Reflect — Take time to read what Christmas is all about. Create space to reflect and celebrate the birth of Christ. Luke 1–2 is a great place to start. Find a Gospel-centered church and attend a Christmas service. Reflect on who Christ is in your life and celebrate! Since our kids were little, one of our traditions is to make a birthday cake for Jesus. My friend gave me the idea, and I love it because it’s a great way to reflect on who we’re meant to celebrate on this Christmas day.


Connect — Sometimes we get so busy trying to honor all of those around us with presents that we forget to sit in the presence of Jesus (see what I did there?!). If you’re new to this whole Christian thing, let me break it down for you - God is relational. We can talk to God, just like when you talk to your bestie. One of the best parts about connecting with Christ through prayer is sitting in the silence. In the stillness and solitude, the distractions of the day slows or breaks away and you connect to the Creator. Take time to be still, thank God for who He is, ask Him to help you ditch the mess and focus on the miraculous.

Let’s pause for a hot minute and go way back to little kid version of you.

Remember that feeling of anticipation and hope on Christmas?

You were rocking those Christmas jammies wondering what is to come. Let’s carry that same anticipation and wonder this season.

Except our hope isn’t in earthly presents but the heavenly gift and promise found in Christ… a promise of life.

may we reflect and connect with Christ this Christmas season… and celebrate with lots of cake!

Max, age 3. Photo by ©  Brookshier Creative

Max, age 3. Photo by © Brookshier Creative